The Art of Cunnilingus

 

 

The Luv & Art ,

Pleasure & Ecstacy of Cunnilingus

Cunnilingus is an oral sex act performed by a person on the vulva or vagina of another person. The clitoris is the most sexually sensitive part of the human female genitalia, and its stimulation may result in a woman becoming sexually aroused or achieving orgasm.   The term cunnilingus is derived from the Latin words for the vulva (cunnus) and the verb "to lick" (lingō). A person who performs cunnilingus may be referred to as a cunnilinguist.   Cunnilingus is the perfect name for a female superhero. But more importantly, it’s the fancy word that means oral sex performed on a woman. Most people don’t use “cunnilingus” in casual conversation, because it has more of a sterile, academic feel. You wouldn’t turn to your homegirl at brunch like, “My boyfriend gave me excellent cunnilingus last night. Mimosas for everyone!!” How to Perform Cunnilingus By Cory Silverberg Updated March 10, 2018 Some people consider oral sex the most intimate of all sex acts. Cunnilingus, the technical term for performing oral sex on a woman, can be incredibly intimate. To be good at it, you have to be an excellent reader of her body, her breathing, her movements, and what she might be telling you with words.   Everything you do is for your partner at that moment and shouldn't be based on performance expectations, lessons from porn, or previous oral sex experiences. Clean Yourself Up Make sure your hands are clean and your nails are trimmed as you'll want to use your hands as well as your mouth on her. If you have facial hair and shave regularly, be sure to do it beforehand; nothing kills the mood quite like sandpaper on her sensitive parts. Get Wet A lot of people have preconceived notions about the taste and/or smell of their partner’s genitals. If you're anxious about this, suggest a romantic bath or shower together and then go down on her. Getting naked and wet with each other is never a bad idea, and as you get more comfortable, you will probably find that your partner's taste and smell trigger more arousal than anything else. Some people use flavored lubricants, and many dental dams (great for safer sex) are flavored also. Start Slowly Most women won’t want to go from zero to oral sex in 30 seconds. Take your time and ease into it. Do other things you know she loves. Use your hands and mouth all over her body, which will nicely foreshadow what is to come. When she’s good and excited, her hips are thrusting and the moans pretty regular, head south. Get Comfortable Both of you will enjoy this more if you’re both physically comfortable. Use pillows and be creative with oral sex positions so that you are both relaxed and feel like you can move around. Some people will find it hard on their neck to lie between their partner's legs with their head poised over her vulva. For others, this will work just great. Remember that it’s okay to change positions and move around. Get the Lay of the Land If you don’t have the body parts, you might want to brush up on your female genital anatomy. Most of the attention with cunnilingus is on the clitoris, but every woman is different and there may be other parts of her that will take oral sex from the every day to the out of this world. Use your fingers to spread her lips and take a good look at her clitoris, her labia, her mons, her vagina, her perineum and her anus. When in Doubt, Go Slow A lot of women have very sensitive clitorises, so avoid stampeding to the clitoris. Flatten your tongue and use wide slow strokes to explore her inner and outer lips, her vagina, and her clitoris. Imagine licking an ice cream cone. Start at the perineum and lick up and around her clit and back down the other side. Check the Hood Most women prefer to have their clitoral hood licked. This is a fold of skin that covers the actual glans of the clitoris, which is extremely sensitive. Experiment With Different Strokes In general, women tend to like firm pressure and repetitive motion. Quick tongue flicks against the clitoris can be irritating. If you’re not sure, ask her to give you feedback while you try different kinds of strokes—circular, side-to-side, up-and-down. Don’t take it personally if she flinches—discovering what pleases is often a process of trial and error. Let Her Give You a Hand If you've ever seen her masturbate, you have some idea how she likes her clit to be touched. Ask her to show you now, or you can offer her your hand and ask her to demonstrate the kind of stroking she prefers by placing hers on top of yours. Add Penetration When she’s good and excited, add some lubricant to your fingers or toy and gently insert it into her vagina. Move them in and out using short but firm strokes. Put your mouth back on her clitoris and lick her while you penetrate her. This won’t do it for all women, but many love the experience of clitoral stimulation and penetration. Keep a Steady Pace Women like steady stimulation, so don’t stop unless you need to come up for air. You’ll see the signs when she’s getting ready to go over the top—her moans, her thighs pressing against your head, her body arching, her hands tightening on your head—she’ll let you know when to stop. A Few Extra Words of Advice Don't forget the rest of her body. In terms of what's nearby, you can incorporate the perineum and vaginal opening into your oral sex. If you are using a sex toy for penetration, she might prefer to work the dildo or vibrator inside her while you're licking. This allows you to concentrate, and her to get the rhythm she likes best. If your mouth or tongue tires, give it a rest but replace the stimulation with your hand or a vibrator (unless she wants a rest too). Male partners need to know that it can take women longer to come than men, and many women are anxious about this. Whatever you do, don't make her feel bad about how long it's taking, and hang in there for the long haul. If you need to stop or change things up, that’s okay, but don’t make it about her “taking too long," that'll only make it take longer.   *Fellatio (also known as fellation, and in slang as blowjob, BJ, giving head, or sucking off) is an oral sex act involving the use of the mouth (including the lips and tongue) or throat performed by a person on the penis of another person.

Paying Lip Service: Top 4 Cunnilingus Techniques

Katy Thorn March 12, 2020

Our previous findings about oral sex, both from our oral sex mini survey and through the LELO Global Survey, have revealed some interesting (but perhaps not so surprising) things about oral sex:

Over 90% enjoy receiving cunnilingus, (and around 60% say they can climax from it); however, while many also enjoy giving oral pleasure to their partner, around 30% have revealed that they think there is room for improvement for their technique.

Given how positive the former stats are, we’re sure your skills are perfectly up to snuff, but that’s not to say there isn’t something to be gained by picking up a new trick or two; below we list the top 5 techniques for bringing someone to orgasm through oral sex!

Good oral sex is something that is made and broken by enthusiasm, but understanding of anatomy doesn’t hurt. Because we all have different degrees of sensitivity in our erogenous zones

1. Light as a Feather

This is a great ‘starting’ technique, and if your partner is extremely sensitive, it may be all they need to reach orgasm.

Using the lip of your tongue, use light (but wet) flicks of the tongue from the bottom of the labia minora and majora up to the clitoris and then down again, alternating with light kisses on the inside of the thighs. Simultaneously, you can use your fingers to caress their nipples. After a warm up, you can move to making circles with your fingers and tongue upon the clitoris (or wherever you get the most enthusiastic response).

2. Hummingbird’s Kiss

Many people enjoy pressure and rapid movement around the entirely of the vulva but generally stimulation will focus on their clitoris. You can gently making a sucking motion with your lips, but also alternate with lip on lip sucking and a intense but slowly sliding tongue. Communication―verbal or otherwise― with your partner is key so they can let you know which motion they’re most enjoying, so pay attention!

We also recommend introducing some shallow finger play (focus on stimulation of their G-spot rather than penetrating very far) or a slim powerful vibrator

3. Cunnilingus Cowgirl

If your partner likes to switch back and forth from light to hard, or seems like they want to take charge of the experience rather than sit back, this is an ideal oral sex position

Lie back and put your arms under and behind their thighs as they straddle your face. They can lift themselves up for light flicks of your tongue or (carefully) grind if they want something more intense. While they’re facing you, you can cup their behind and enjoy the view if they add their own fingers to the equation.

4. Up, Down & ALL Around

Variety is the spice of life, right?
Analingus can be a divine addition to oral sex water-based lubricant can make this much more comfortable for giver and receiver. As well, it is best to use a dental dam (or cut latex glove or condom) as a barrier to anal contact so as to prevent the possible spread of bacteria when switching back and from vaginal stimulation.